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WELLNESS WEDNESDAY #61: What’s the Other Person Experiencing?

Each week, ICBA’s Jordan Bateman reflects on what we’ve learned as we participate in ICBA’s Workplace Wellness Program. This program is free for all ICBA members – check out icba.ca/wellness for details.

Our Wellness materials this month is looking at Emotional Intelligence, one of the underrated building blocks of mental health. Without knowing how and why we feel the way do, it’s hard to manage our reactions and responses to various challenges.

Our Communications Manager, Jonathan McGill, has a little sticker in his office that says something along the lines of: “You don’t know what kind of day the person on the other end of the phone is having.” Basically, it’s a reminder that our own pressures and feelings do not exist in a vacuum—other people have stress, emotions and their own challenges.

We can’t control other people’s words or actions, but we can manage our responses to them. This week’s Toolbox Talk notes that it takes time, understanding and practice to identify our own – and other people’s – emotions, and manage or respond to them in the right way. A few pointers:

  • Give constructive feedback rather than criticism
  • Stay calm under pressure
  • Help to resolve conflicts between others
  • Speak up about important issues
  • Genuinely listen to others

Emotional intelligence isn’t built overnight, and everyone has bad days, but it’s a crucial skill in collaborative workplaces.

ICBA’s Workplace Wellness Program is helping more than 75 companies and 7,000+ construction professionals better understand mental health. The program is free for ICBA members — see icba.ca/wellness.

 

WELLNESS WEDNESDAY #62: Keep Calm and Put Emotional Intelligence On

Each week, ICBA’s Jordan Bateman reflects on what we’ve learned as we participate in ICBA’s Workplace Wellness Program. This program is free for all ICBA members – check out icba.ca/wellness for details.

We’ve all been there. A harsh word from a boss. A criticism from a client or colleague. Something – whether in our control or not – going wrong.

The heart pounds and it gets really warm, really fast. The stress begins to rise. And we have to respond professionally and kindly, even as our body and instinct may be taking us to some hostile feelings.

That’s where Emotional Intelligence comes in. Can we turn the tide on that negativity and respond in a better way? Our Toolbox Talk this week offers some suggestions on how:

  • Take a step back when you feel like you might be reacting emotionally.
  • If possible, take 60 seconds to take deep breaths to lower your heart rate and focus your mind.
  • Don’t make any decisions right away – give yourself some time to think it through.
  • Challenge your thoughts – what do you want to achieve? How do you best get there?
  • Choose your response – after assessing your options.

This all takes work and self-discipline, and sometimes the immediate need to do something takes over. But if we can find the time and space to calm down, it usually pays off.

ICBA’s Workplace Wellness Program is helping more than 75 companies and 7,000+ construction professionals better understand mental health. The program is free for ICBA members — see icba.ca/wellness.